life without negativity

Have you ever observed fish in a dirty aquarium? They look distant and float in circles, dejected, as if they have chains attached to them.eurs fins which constantly dragged them downward. Replace the dirty water with fresh water and you will notice that the fish will start to swim peacefully instead of land.eur.

If the “water” in which we swim is our thoughts, then we ourselves can control the degree of purity of our “aquarium”. Many of us have false beliefs that have been shaped by events or people in our lives. These false beliefs are our “dirty water”. Unnecessary doubts, self-doubt, destructive relationships – all this limits our possibilities and does not allow us to achieve what we could achieve. False beliefs change our entire life. We are starting to see it in gray.

But there is also good news. Unlike fish, we are able to change our "water" ourselves. Most people are slaves toeurs thoughts. They don't even realize that they are capable of controlling theeurs thoughts. Many make no effort to change the course of theeurs thoughts. This may be due to some kind of peur, or maybe they don't consider themselves worthy of "clean water". They are used to swimming in the negative. They just took it for granted and that's it.

The truth is that you are capable of cleaning your aquarium. Anytime. You can meet each new day with joy, and not with the feeling that "the whole world is against you." Build only the relationships that will make you a good personeurher. Surround yourself with positive people. Seek joy in everything. You can change your life by changing what it is made of. It all starts with our thoughts and ends with them. By controlling our thoughts, we control our reality.

Here are three ways to help you understand what kind of "water" you're swimming in and what to do about it.

1. Determine the condition of your “aquarium”
It's simple. Either you live or youeurs. There are no third parties.
You are fixated on the future. Constantly think about the past. Never say goodbye to a relationship that is long gone. You eat all kinds of bullshit. Sleep badly. Focused on problems. Always dissatisfied with something, annoying everyone around you, including yourself. Your days are full of struggle and resistance. You are fed up with what surrounds you, life is for you the analogue of a prison. Hope is as much a myth to you as Santa Claus. You are a consumereur, not a creatureeur.

Or.
You create, you develop and develop the people around you. You only build relationships that are important to you and enrich you. You eat healthy foods. Listen to yourself. Express your opinion. Dream. You are not suffocated by the peur. You look great, wake up in the morning feeling like you've had a good night's sleep. Loving sincerely and knowing how to forgive. Live in the present. You try to find something good in what surrounds you and in the people who are close to you. Do not pursue mirages. To create. Your aquarium is clean. You really live.

In which of these two descriptions did you find the most resemblance to your life? Maybe in both? Your aquarium may have been dirty in the past, but now it's cleaner. Or, on the contrary, now it's dirtier than ever. Your own thoughts determine how polluted your aquarium is.

2. Become aware of the misconceptions that shape your life.
No one becomes an adult without “scars”. We live in a chaotic and uncontrollable world. The parents divorce. Friends betray us. People often only judge by "the cover": having acne or being overweight can become a reason to hate yourself. There is death, loneliness and internal scarseures that never fully heal.

Some start using alcohol and drugs. It's the only thing that can shake them andeur make you feel at least something. They call it “adapting to an unjust world.” But in reality it is a form of escape. They will run, hide and be around other people as little as possible.

Another version of the development of events is also possible: you enter adulthood and the countdown begins. Test results. University. Reports. Maintenance. Fight for the besteure place in the office. Marriage. Children. Mortgage. Expectations. Depression. And, of course, the peur eternal. You hide from life. All the “main action” begins to take place in your head, because it is safe there and no one can disturb you. This causes you to form a ton of false beliefs that snowball.

The above are two of the most categorical examples, however, if you haven't figured it out, that doesn't mean there aren't false beliefs in your life. Here are the most common examples of common misconceptions.

I will never do anything exceptional. I will never fall in love. I will never be heurthem. I'm worth nothing. I owe everything to my parents. I can not. I will always have problems. I am a victim. I am not strong enough. If I'm not rich, no one will like me. I am unattractive. If I don't make that much money or achieve a certain status, I won't be able to become a good husband, dad, person, etc.

All false beliefs manifest directly in our behavior. They determine the choices we make in work, relationships, the way we communicate with parents, friends, colleagues. False beliefs affect every decision we make in life. They block many of our aspirations, telling us we are unworthy of them.

Think about your false beliefs about love, work, people, your body, creativity, life in general? What can and can't you really do? What do you think you deserve?

Reiterate all the false beliefs you just listed. Now think about how your life would change if you got rid of it? Who would you be? What kind of people would surround you? What would you do in life? Would your life be different from the one you have now?

3. Challenge your false beliefs: do what they say you can't do
First, you need to be clear about which of your beliefs are false. They are often shaped by upbringing, traumatic relationships and events. “Deceptive” beliefs make you doubt your own abilities and capabilities. They force you to constantly seek approval from others. You start to think that because of this, people will be attracted to you and that “the real you” is not enough to interest anyone. False beliefs rob you of your uniqueness.

A good way to recognize false beliefs is to ask yourself what you are up to.eur and why. For example, you want to get a tattoo, master a motorcycle, and do street art all your life. But your father wants you to get married, have children and become a housewife. You have a wonderful relationship with your father and you don't want to upset him. You are grateful to him for everything he has done for you. You think if you don't live like he wants you'll be a bad girl.

You live your life yourself, and only in your power to “clean your aquarium” – change what you don’t like.

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